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This is the place where nothing seems to matter anymore. A heavy fog of meaninglessness settles in, and the energy to care, to fight, or to hope feels long gone — like trying to reach for something you no longer believe exists.
Reach out if your Feeling this Low.
Don’t do this alone.
I’ve been here and it’s far from fun! I don’t want you to do this alone, we don’t have to find the answers right now but just by talking it can help you feel stronger to navigate forward and I’ll be there to walk with you. Please reach out, its so much easier doing with with someone to talk to, trust me I’ve been there.
“The opposite of depression is not happiness, but vitality.”
— Andrew Solomon
Hold on In There, You are not alone in how you feel here……
This is the valley of emotional flatline — not fiery self-hatred, not crushing despair, but the cold fog of nothingness. It’s the numbness that follows the storm. The absence of drive. No more questions, no more energy, no more meaning.
In this state, life feels like white noise. You may still function outwardly, but inside there’s nothing compelling you forward. No why. No will. You feel like a shadow, moving through a story that has already ended. You don’t necessarily want to die — but living feels like a dull ache.
This is the realm where people say: “I don’t feel anything anymore.”
Psychological Insight:
Apathy is a survival response. When the nervous system has been flooded with too much pain for too long, it shuts down. Not out of weakness — but as a form of protection.
Hopelessness and numbness often follow long periods of:
Chronic stress, grief, or betrayal
Repeated failure or disappointment
Trying hard and still feeling unseen, unloved, or unsuccessful
When hope becomes too painful, the brain stops generating it. Meaning becomes a threat — because meaning creates vulnerability. So the mind withdraws and wraps the soul in a gray blanket.
But under numbness, there is still a pilot light burning. The apathy is not your truth — it’s your armor.
“When everything seems to be going against you, remember that the airplane takes off against the wind, not with it.””
— Henry Ford
SELF-SOOTHING FROM APATHY, LOST, DISCONNECTED & MEANINGLESS FEELINGS
Mini-Process: Questions + Rant Builder
Self-Soothing Questions:
These questions act like emotional breadcrumbs — pulling someone gently out of the darkness without forcing positivity.
What if this numbness is my body’s way of keeping me safe, not that I’m being wrong?
What’s one tiny thing I could feel mild curiosity about today?
Have I ever come back from a place like this before?
What would happen if I didn’t try to “fix” this — but just felt it?
Is it possible that meaning is still there — I’m just too tired to see it right now?
Can I believe that the fog will lift, even if I don’t know when or how?
What if my soul is telling me something about where I am, what things make me come ‘alive’ when was the last time I felt good about something, what was it about that thing that made me feel good?
What things do excite me or make me happy, perhaps this feeling is a chance to navigate back to living more from my soul, from what ignites me
What things make me feel something even if they seen meaningless, perhaps I can take my focus off ‘important things’ such as career or family and just think about what makes me feel something. I’ll start there. I can make a list of anything that just makes life that little bit more worth living.
I don’t need to solve the big picture right now, the path I’m going or know the purpose I just need to find what feels good for me and sift that out from what shuts me down.
Self-Soothing Rant:
Talk to yourself as if you are your best friend, someone who cares. These sentences can be read silently to yourself. They can help you start to form your own sentences, your own self talk. Keep this momentum going, follow on from the ideas and start to create your own self rant talk, let the ideas flow, and if they don’t come, just keep reading these.
“Right now, I feel empty. But this isn’t who I am — this is what my body and mind are doing to protect me. This is the hibernation of the soul, not its death.”
“Maybe I’ve given everything and received nothing. Maybe I’m just exhausted at a soul level. Maybe I’ve been running on hope for so long that I burned through it. But even though I don’t feel anything right now, something inside me knows that this will change.”
“This numbness is a pause, not a prison. This disconnection is not forever. I’m still here. I still showed up today. That means something.”
“I don’t need to feel passion right now. I don’t need to figure it all out. I just need to breathe. To rest. To whisper to myself: ‘There is still something in me worth tending to.’”
“Maybe today, that’s enough. Maybe tomorrow, I’ll feel something again. Maybe the fog lifts when I stop trying to fight it. I’m still worthy of love, even here.”
“Perhaps moving forward I’ll start taking note of things that bring me joy, make me feel alive connected and hold meaning for me, perhaps I can navigate through this by being mindful of what things make me feel good, I don’t have to solve the big decisions I just need to note when my own soul feels more alive and life has a bit more meaning for me, perhaps there is a way I can navigate out of this authentically from the inside out, I don’t have to answer to big questions right now, just make space for the small things that bring joy”
Carry on speaking to yourself in this manner, keep the momentum going like riding a bike, don’t give space for the doubt and the negative thoughts to come in, ride that bike of these sentences and start inventing your own, start talking to yourself with as much zeal as you can muster as if you are talking a friend out of a muddy pit. Keep peddling, don’t stop, work your way out of doubt and as soon as those thoughts of hopelessness come back in, start peddling again and enjoy making up your own sentences, use questions you don’t to have it figured out, try ‘what if…..’ this can become fun….play…..you can do this. Your not trying to reach joy or even a solution to your situation, your just trying to feel a little less hopeless.
“When you’re going through hell, keep going.”
— Winston Churchill
Reach out if your Feeling this Low.
I’ve been here and it’s something that I don’t want for you to have to do alone. Please reach out – it just takes one single text or message.
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