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Pride can be a stepping stone out of shame, but it is also a precarious pedestal. It often masks insecurity, shielding us from vulnerability through a sense of control or elevation. In this state, we may view others as lesser — separating ourselves from the shared humanity that connects us. While confidence and self-respect are healthy, pride rooted in superiority blocks empathy, connection, and growth. It resists feedback, denies weakness, and clings to identity over truth. Ultimately, arrogance disconnects us from learning — because it insists we already know.
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“Pride is concerned with who is right. Humility is concerned with what is right.”
— Ezra Taft Benson
Hold on In There, You are not alone in how you feel here……
Pride feels like a false sense of power — puffed-up, armored, certain. It can masquerade as strength, but underneath it’s often brittle. Superiority compares. It needs to be “above” someone else to feel safe. Arrogance postures — it can’t allow in feedback, softness, or humility. This state tends to block growth because it clings to the illusion of control. It’s defensive, loud, and often deeply lonely underneath.
Psychological Insight:
Pride and superiority often arise as defense mechanisms — ways the ego protects itself from shame, fear, or vulnerability. If we’ve been deeply humiliated, neglected, or told we weren’t enough, the psyche may compensate by building a fortress of “being better” to avoid ever feeling small again. Arrogance, at its root, is fear wearing a mask. When we feel unseen, unsafe, or insecure, these states help us feel “in control” — but they also isolate us and keep us stuck.
“Arrogance is the camouflage of insecurity.”
— Tim Fargo
SELF-ENQUIRY FROM PRIDE SUPERIORITY & ARROGENCE
Mini-Process: Questions + Rant Builder
Self-Enquiring Questions:
These questions act like emotional breadcrumbs — they can gently accept how you are feeling now while guiding you toward a slightly higher perspective.
What am I trying to protect by being right or “above”?
Is there a part of me that feels small or not enough?
If I let go of needing to be right or admired, what am I afraid might happen?
What part of me needs to be seen or held right now?
Could softness actually make me stronger?
Self-Soothing Rant:
Talk to yourself as if you are your best friend, someone who cares. These sentences can be read silently to yourself. They can help you start to form your own sentences, your own self talk. Keep this momentum going, follow on from the ideas and start to create your own self rant talk, let the ideas flow, and if they don’t come, just keep reading these.
“I know that pride is a shield — and maybe I’ve needed it. Maybe this posture was once the only way I felt safe. But I’m learning that real strength doesn’t need to be loud.“
“I don’t have to prove anything to anyone. I can rest. I can breathe.“
“I can be wrong and still be loved.“
“I don’t have to compare myself or protect myself through status or being better.”
“I’m not better or worse than anyone — I’m just me, and that’s enough.”
“Underneath this armor is someone who wants to be loved, not admired.“
“Underneath this sharpness is softness waiting to feel safe again. And that’s okay. I honor the strength that got me here, but I don’t need to grip anymore. I can just be. I am safe to relax into truth.”
Keep going with your own inner voice. Keep reasoning your way into a space with more light. Keep speaking—let the sentences come to you freely. You are what you’ve been looking for. You can do this. Let your soul be your guide and your light. You are empowering yourself now to be your own guide, your own strength, your own light. You’re uncovering the most valuable thing you could ever discover: your true self. So work with this—don’t give up, my friend. This is the greatest gift you can give yourself: finding your way through this darkness, this rock bottom. Believe in your inner light. You can do this. Keep self-ranting, keep self-soothing.
“None are so empty as those who are full of themselves.”
— Benjamin Whichcote
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