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This state contracts our awareness and clouds our clarity, pulling us into survival mode where the world feels unsafe and the future uncertain. Whether it arises from trauma, stress, or uncertainty, fear tightens the body and hijacks the mind — demanding control in a world that resists it. But even within fear’s grip, there is the possibility of witnessing, breathing, and softening into something wiser.
Reach out if your Feeling this Anxious.
Don’t do this alone.
I’ve been here and it’s far from fun! I don’t want you to do this alone, we don’t have to find the answers right now but just by talking it can help you feel stronger to navigate forward and I’ll be there to walk with you. Please reach out, its so much easier doing with with someone to talk to, trust me I’ve been there.
“You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face.”
— Eleanor Roosevelt
Hold on In There, You are not alone in how you feel here……
This is the realm of too much.
Too much unknown.
Too much responsibility.
Too much to handle.
Fear floods the nervous system. Your chest tightens. Your breathing shortens. Your thoughts race and loop. The body wants to either run, freeze, or scream. But there’s nowhere to go. Nowhere that feels safe.
Anxiety is the mind’s attempt to prepare for disaster when it can’t see the path ahead. It spins out trying to regain control. Overwhelm hits when there’s no clear next step. Panic crashes when fear hits the red zone.
This isn’t “just in your head.” It’s in your body. Your breath. Your pulse. It feels like a storm you can’t shut off — and yet, it’s not madness. It’s a response to a world that often is too fast, too uncertain, too disconnected.
Psychological Insight:
Fear is information. It’s not the enemy. It’s your system scanning for threats and trying to protect you. It becomes anxiety and panic when there is no perceived relief, no sense of agency, and no internal grounding point.
An anxious mind is often one that’s too intelligent — it’s trying to simulate every possible outcome. But it can’t. So it loops. Overwhelm comes when the cognitive load exceeds your emotional bandwidth.
The solution is not more thinking. It’s regulation. Breath. Movement. Reconnection. Fear needs grounding, not fixing.
“Fear defeats more people than any other one thing in the world.”
— Ralph Waldo Emerson
SELF-SOOTHING FROM FEAR, ANXIETY, OVERWHELM & PANIC
Mini-Process: Questions + Rant Builder
Self-Soothing Questions:
These questions act like emotional breadcrumbs — they can gently accept how you are feeling now while guiding you toward a slightly higher perspective.
What am I most afraid of right now?
Is there anything I can control in this moment — even just my breath?
If my fear had a voice, what would it be trying to protect me from?
What if I don’t need to have all the answers right now?
Can I take just one tiny step forward?
Have I survived other storms before?
Self-Soothing Rant:
Talk to yourself as if you are your best friend, someone who cares. These sentences can be read silently to yourself. They can help you start to form your own sentences, your own self talk. Keep this momentum going, follow on from the ideas and start to create your own self rant talk, let the ideas flow, and if they don’t come, just keep reading these.
“I feel like I can’t breathe. Like everything is too much. Like the ground isn’t there and I’m falling. But I am not broken. My body is just alert. It’s trying to protect me.”
“Fear is not failure. Fear is a sign I care. That something matters. That I want to survive. But I don’t need to solve everything right now. I just need to come back to my breath.”
“I’ve survived other storms. Other moments when it felt like too much. And somehow, I made it through. That means I have a map — even if I can’t see it right now.”
“I am allowed to pause. To stop spinning. I don’t have to earn peace. I can choose it, even for just a few seconds.”
“Even in this chaos, I can find one solid thing. One grounding thread. My breath. The floor. My hands. I am still here.”
“I don’t need to feel calm to be strong. I just need to keep breathing. Keep going. The panic will pass. It always does.”
Keep going with your own inner voice. Keep reasoning your way into a space with more light. Keep speaking—let the sentences come to you freely. You are what you’ve been looking for. You can do this. Let your soul be your guide and your light. You are empowering yourself now to be your own guide, your own strength, your own light. You’re uncovering the most valuable thing you could ever discover: your true self. So work with this—don’t give up, my friend. This is the greatest gift you can give yourself: finding your way through this darkness, this rock bottom. Believe in your inner light. You can do this. Keep self-ranting, keep self-soothing.
“Nothing in life is to be feared, it is only to be understood.”
— Marie Curie
Reach out if your Feeling this.
I’ve been here and it’s something that I don’t want for you to have to do alone. Please reach out it just takes one single text or message.
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