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Anger arises when our boundaries are crossed, when injustice is perceived, or when pain has no other outlet. It is a force of energy that, when suppressed, turns inward into shame — but when expressed blindly, can harm both self and others. Beneath anger often lies deep hurt, grief, or unmet needs. This emotional state is both a signal and a sword — revealing where something within us feels violated, powerless, or unseen. Its fire can burn or illuminate, depending on how it’s held.
Reach out if your Feeling This.
Don’t do this alone.
I’ve been here and it’s far from fun! I don’t want you to do this alone, we don’t have to find the answers right now but just by talking it can help you feel stronger to navigate forward and I’ll be there to walk with you. Please reach out, its so much easier doing with with someone to talk to, trust me I’ve been there.
Hold on In There, You are not alone in how you feel here……
This is the fire. The breaking point. The part of you that won’t take it anymore. It may explode outward, or boil silently beneath the surface — but either way, it’s energy demanding movement.
Anger often appears when boundaries have been crossed. When you’ve been holding too much for too long. When no one listened. When you did everything “right” and still got hurt. It’s your soul’s way of saying: “Enough.”
Frustration arises when there’s effort without results. When the wheel keeps spinning and nothing changes. Rage appears when you’ve swallowed pain for too long — and it erupts to remind you: You matter.
This state is powerful. But it’s also misunderstood. Anger isn’t “bad.” It’s an alarm system. And when heard and channeled, it can become fuel for healing and change.
Psychological Insight:
Anger is secondary. Beneath it, you often find hurt. Disappointment. Grief. Betrayal. Injustice. Anger gives you the energy you didn’t have when you were in despair or fear.
It’s a state of mobilization. Biologically, it increases adrenaline and focus. Psychologically, it’s a reclaiming of power. But unchanneled, it can burn relationships — or turn inward into self-loathing.
Learning to sit with anger without exploding or suppressing it is the key to transforming it. It’s asking, “What needs to be protected? What needs to be restored?”
“Frustration, although quite painful at times, is a very positive and essential part of success.”
— Bo Bennett
SELF-SOOTHING FROM ANGER RAGE FRUSTRATION
Mini-Process: Questions + Rant Builder
Self-Soothing Questions:
These questions act like emotional breadcrumbs — they can gently accept how you are feeling now while guiding you toward a slightly higher perspective.
What boundary has been crossed?
What deeper pain or hurt might be underneath this?
Where in my body do I feel this anger? Can I breathe into it?
Is this anger trying to protect me or empower me?
What would a safe expression of this anger look like?
What is this fire asking me to change, say, or release?
Self-Soothing Rant:
Talk to yourself as if you are your best friend, someone who cares. These sentences can be read silently to yourself. They can help you start to form your own sentences, your own self talk. Keep this momentum going, follow on from the ideas and start to create your own self rant talk, let the ideas flow, and if they don’t come, just keep reading these.
“I am angry. And that’s okay. Anger means something mattered. Anger means I cared. I was pushed too far. I was unheard too long. I am not wrong for feeling this way.”
“I am not a monster for having fire. I am not broken because I want to scream. I am human. And this fire is part of me.”
“But I don’t have to burn down the world to be seen. I can hold this anger. I can breathe through it. I can move it without destroying myself.”
“I can scream into a pillow. I can punch a bag. I can walk in the woods and let the trees absorb the rage. I don’t have to stay stuck in this state.”
“I know this feeling won’t last forever. It’s a wave. A flare. It’s telling me where the pain is. Where my needs are. Where my truth is.”
“I honor the anger. But I choose not to be consumed by it. I will channel it. I will use it. I will rise from it. Stronger. Clearer. Whole.”
Keep going with your own inner voice. Keep reasoning your way into a space with more light. Keep speaking—let the sentences come to you freely. You are what you’ve been looking for. You can do this. Let your soul be your guide and your light. You are empowering yourself now to be your own guide, your own strength, your own light. You’re uncovering the most valuable thing you could ever discover: your true self. So work with this—don’t give up, my friend. This is the greatest gift you can give yourself: finding your way through this darkness, this rock bottom. Believe in your inner light. You can do this. Keep self-ranting, keep self-soothing.
“Rage is not a direction – it is a flare in the sky calling us to feel what lives underneath.”
— Unknown
Reach out if your Feeling this Low.
I’ve been here and it’s something that I don’t want for you to have to do alone. Please reach out it just takes one single text or message.
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